I’ve been working on a usability post but it’s not ready yet. In the meantime, I thought I would write a few things to the husbands out there.

I have been encouraged by Shegeek to write a book about my thoughts/practice of being a good husband. I mean, a really good husband in terms of how he treats his wife and family, how he shows love, displays love, etc. There’s a lot there. One of these days a book may come out of it. *shrugs.

For today, here are a few thoughts I’d like to share. These are in no order of importance, as they are ALL important.

1. Bring some flowers to your wife on some random day of the week, just because you love her. Or pick up a greeting card. Heck, make your own card. If anything, write on a sticky note that you love and adore her and put it on the bathroom mirror.

2. TELL your wife you love her. Don’t tell me you already do that. I mean, TELL her and mean it with your heart man. Get out of the rut of just saying it like some reflexive response. Heck, if you don’t say it first….then do that. It’s awesome to feel it when you say it.

3. If you’re frustrated from work, DO NOT take it out on your wife. What did she do to deserve that? Rather, have a discussion about how work frustrated you or made you mad and LISTEN to any feedback or advice she gives you. DO NOT tune her out. Listen is the keyword. We, as men/husbands, do not do enough of this. And if she’s frustrated from work, etc., LISTEN to her and give feedback. Communicate!

4. Ask your wife out on a date. Seriously, even if you have kids or not. There’s always something cool about saying, “Hey honey, would you go out with me tonight?”. Awesome’ness.

5. Don’t be “looking” at other women. Dude, you’re disrespecting your wife. If she is the love of your life, and she better be if you married her, then everyone else pales in comparison. Wait, there is no comparison. I’ve told Shegeek, “There are many attractive people in the world, but I only have eyes for you.” Sound cheesy? Yes? Difference is, I MEAN IT. And when she replies, “You’re crazy.”, I reply “Then crazy is a great place to be.” Cheesy to many? Probably, but when you mean it with all your heart. There is no cheesy, but rather gold.

6. Here is a tough one. If you have had a disagreement, and we have at times, you have got to check your anger/frustration at the door. And you have to dig deep, and show her love through whatever disagreement you have. It’s okay to be angry, but showing it in a wrong way is unhealthy for everyone. This doesn’t mean you are weak or inferior, but rather shows wisdom and strength in a stressful situation.

7. Hardest one. If you do any or all of the above, don’t expect anything in return. If you do, you’re doing it for the wrong reasons. Do it because you love your wife, period. Most likely, there will be good returns. Just saying.

These are just a few thoughts that I try to put into practice each day. Some days I don’t do so well, but I try to honor, adore and cherish my wife everyday.

Seriously men, it’s time to step and adore, cherish, and truly love your wives. Hardest part is stepping out there and doing something that may be different for you, which is a GOOD thing.

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